Breakthrough from Narcissistic Abuse

You Can't Change What You Can't See:

Up until the age of seven, children are in THETA hypnotic brainwave states. This means that what you observed consistently over time in your childhood, has become your default way of viewing yourself as well as the world. Your blueprints for relationships, careers, self worth, financial wealth, and even your physical health were created in childhood, and by the way Dear One, that's not your fault. However, unless you AWAKEN and learn to REPROGRAM your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND your life will continue to unfold as a mirror of your painful past. The GREAT NEWS is, with my Breakthrough Program, extensive therapy and transformative Emotional Detachment Technique, you can RADICALLY transform your subconscious mind and FINALLY liberate yourself from toxic generational patterns of the past!

Are you ready to transform back to your authentic self ?

We are smart men and women, who make poor choices again and again unaware that our subconscious mind is stuck in survival strategies we relied on as children. Personal growth and development is as much a conscious journey as it is a spiritual one. I can access the wounded parts of you, and guide you towards allowing light and love to enter where you need to be healed the most. I want to teach you my TRANSFORMATIONAL tools so that you can LEVEL UP in every area of your life. When you develop confidence in your talents, your mind, and your decision-making process, you become a MAGNET for authentic love and fulfilling careers, and you also become a healthy role model for your children.

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It's Not You - It's Your Programming

Childhood emotional neglect l eaves us with TRUST ISSUES. As adults, we NEVER ask for help and believe we must tackle life's hardships completely on our own. Feeling ignored has caused us to repress our needs, minimize our pain, and accept whatever crumbs fall into our lap. We have trouble finding our purpose in life, and our thinking can be disorganized. No one taught us how to process or regulate our emotions and as a result, we are then prone to food, chemical, and relationship addiction. In the throes of addiction, we can run from our invisible scars. We are haunted by shame, and blame ourselves for things we are not responsible for. Our sense of worth is tied to the approval of others, which leaves us sensitive to the slightest of criticisms. We never feel good enough, and self neglect. Our scars are invisible, even to us, which can leave us locked within subconscious loops of self sabotaging habitual thinking and behaviors, such as codependency.

Breaking Free: Understanding the Profound Effects of Narcissistic Abuse and the Journey to Reclaiming Your Life

Narcissism is a personality trait characterized by excessive self-importance and a constant need for admiration. Narcissists often lack empathy, and their actions can have profound effects on adults in various aspects of their lives. Narcissism can have lasting effects on adult Victims, impacting various aspects of their lives. This pervasive pattern of behavior can influence relationships, professional success, mental health, and overall well-being. People who fall prey to narcissistic behavior often find themselves entangled in a web of manipulation, Emotional Abuse, and a distorted sense of self-worth. One of the most evident impacts of Narcissistic Abuse on Victims is creating a lack of self-esteem. Narcissists thrive on diminishing others to elevate themselves, leaving their Victims questioning their value and competence. Continuous exposure to such behavior can lead to a pervasive sense of inadequacy, making it challenging for Victims to trust their judgment and capabilities.

Relationships bear the brunt of narcissistic influence, with Victims often experiencing difficulties forming and maintaining healthy connections. The manipulative tactics employed by narcissists often leave Victims questioning the authenticity of others, making it challenging to establish genuine bonds. Emotional well-being is also significantly impacted by Narcissistic Abuse. Victims may grapple with anxiety, depression, and heightened stress levels as a result of the constant emotional turmoil inflicted upon them. The gaslighting and manipulation techniques used by narcissists can leave Victims questioning their reality, leading to a state of confusion and emotional distress.

Leaving a narcissistic relationship often involves a process of healing and rebuilding. Victims may undergo therapy to address the emotional scars left by the narcissist and work toward restoring their sense of self-worth and reclaiming control over their lives .In conclusion, the impact of narcissism on Victims is multifaceted, affecting their self-esteem, relationships, emotional well-being, and professional lives. Breaking free from the clutches of Narcissistic Abuse requires a combination of self-awareness, support from others, and a commitment to healing.

Recognizing the signs of narcissistic behavior and seeking help are essential steps in reclaiming one’s life and moving toward a future free from the detrimental effects of Narcissistic Abuse. Don’t let fear of being alone deter you; we’re here to support you through this journey.

Frequently Asked Questions on Narcissism

Why do Narcissists refuse your true love when all they want is to be deeply loved, heard and cared for themselves?

Narcissists do that because they are mentally ill. It is part of the illness. They don’t really REFUSE your love, but it reminds them of the trauma from their childhood and they think that if they believe you and love you back, they will be hurt just as bad as when they were kids. Instead, they do everything they can to first, push you away and second, to destroy you.

Victims often fall for Narcissists for all their lies, due to the deceptive nature of their words, such as - “I love you”, "I’m sorry" and "I’ll never do it again". They never actually meant any of that. Narcissists have zero emotions. They are not capable and are not built that way. This realization can be challenging for those who have never encountered such individuals before. People around may never even imagine the nature of a narcissist until they get to live with one and was discarded like a trash. Nothing feels more abusive and devastating than that. You feel completely betrayed. In more severe cases, therapists may advise victims still living with a narcissist to distance themselves and establish no contact. Failure to do so may result in continued destruction of their lives until there is nothing left.

The first step towards breaking free from this cycle is awareness. Reading extensively on the subject of narcissism can provide valuable insights, helping victims understand the nature of the illness. It won’t take the hurt away, but it helps to know that it wasn’t you and you are not alone. We have all been through it on this site and are here for you. You just need to reach out. And remember that don't think awareness can heal you. Seeking further knowledge and taking actionable steps are essential for survivors to progress beyond the impact, to move forward, heal, and not only recover but also become the best version of themselves.

Why don’t victims of narcissistic abuse leave as the abuse increases? How is it that victims of narcissistic abuse come to accept increasingly worse abuse?

If you walked in my door and I punched you in the face and spit on you, you would turn around and leave and never return. But, if you come in my house and I shower you with compliments and gifts, you’ll want to come back. So, you come back. Then, you come back and I shower you with compliments and gifts and food. So, you come back again because it feels so good here. Then, you come back and I shower you with compliments and food and gifts and I ask you to stay here because I love you and I want to always shower you with gifts and food and compliments. So, you come and stay. And, I continue to do this for years, day after day, for years. You have come to see that I am the best you’ve ever had. I truly love you. I do. You can tell. Then, one day you come home and I don’t look the same. You are confused, but that’s ok. You know who I am. So, you don’t leave. Then, I am a little cranky. That’s ok. You know who I am. So, you don’t leave. Then, I’m yelling all the time and you don’t know why. You haven’t changed. Nothing is different. Maybe it’s just a hard time at work for me. It’s ok. You know who I am. So, you don’t leave. Then, I am throwing things at you. Why is this? You haven’t changed. You can’t see why, because our life together is largely the same as it has always been. You are doing more for me because I have stopped doing the things I used to do. But, that’s ok. It’s just a phase. You know me. So, you don’t leave. Then, I begin to openly insult you. I have become disgusted with the very things that I used to compliment and praise you for. But why? You haven’t changed. This is you. But, that’s ok. It must just be a hard time at work. Maybe that new person I keep talking about is really pushing my buttons, now. So, you start to do even more to try to take the pressure of it all off my shoulders. This should help. Then, you realize that I am doing nothing but working and sitting. And I am angry ALL THE TIME when I am with you. But, why? LITERALLY NOTHING HAS CHANGED. What could it be?? Nothing is different. So, you don’t leave because it is just a phase. You know me. Now, you are completely confused and desperate to find a solution. You start asking questions and investigating and begging me to tell you what you can do to help. I am literally ignoring you. You follow me around asking what you can do to help and I am physically pushing you away because you disgust me. But, you don’t leave because YOU KNOW ME. We have been together for years. You know this isn’t me. This isn’t how I am. This is just a phase.. This is abuse. And by the time you realize that the compliments were fake, the gifts were to impress you, the love was a lie, you are chest deep in what you thought was your future. That person you are trying to support doesn’t actually exist. It was all fake. You have been living with a lie. Not a liar. A lie. If I have done my job thoroughly, you cannot just walk out the door. Our lives together are so enmeshed that it takes years to untangle and get out. There are children and houses and cars and pets to take into consideration. You have to come to terms with your loss. It feels like mourning a loved one. It literally feels like they have died. So, you grieve and process and try to rebuild your sanity because in the interim, you have had a breakdown from the lies and sheer shock of it all. Abuse is not “allowed.” No one walks into an abusive relationship willingly. No one. We are trapped there. So, to leave when the abuse starts, is not really as easy as it sounds. You first have to identify it. This task is daunting and exhausting on all the levels. To leave a relationship is taxing. To leave an abusive relationship is like cutting your leg off to save your life. It is not as simple as walking out the door as the abuse “gets worse.”

Why are narcissists secretive, and why do they lie unnecessarily even about irrelevant things?

Narcissists are very secretive because deep inside, they are defensive and lack integrity. They tend to be combative and not honest, not only with others but also with themselves. I often say that narcissists are 'glib,' meaning they are shallow, insincere, and overly simple in their thoughts and communication. This way of being makes it hard for them to be truthful. They lie to protect their fragile ego from criticism and to shift blame, avoiding responsibility for their deceitful actions. When you ask 'Why,' I prefer to ask 'What'? What kind of personality structure leads someone to be consistently dishonest? The answer is that the narcissist has a distorted perception of themselves and others. Their personality is like a mask or facade, lacking complexity. They have a hard time thinking deeply or reflecting on their actions. Their inability to understand how their behavior affects others makes them dangerous to those around them. Narcissists are skilled at manipulation, always on the lookout for their next target. Victims often experience excessive admiration ('love bombing') before getting entangled with a delusional stalker. Typically, these targets are co-dependents who are unaware of the lies being used to trap them.